About Firststeps

Firststeps is married and is seeking females for friendship or a casual relationship.

Hello potential new friend,

Request AND Confession.. Please read all the profile. I HAVE written a lengthy one but reading it right through to the end may save time as it is always a shame to jump right in and start chatting with someone promising only to find out that “i wouldn’t have spoken to you had I known…(what was in the profile anyway)”.

So… I am part new man ( eg capable of reading a recipe and cooking/remembering to put the loo seat down for you ) and part evolving neanderthal as well ( eg I still like an occasional beer , watch football and f*rt occasionally. . I watch Strictly occasionally and I would love it if someone could teach ME to dance ) so basically I am a bit of a mix of things. ..I am also a little shy to start with but can chat for England when past any nerves.

I am Hampshire based but love to go to London . It is a great city for visitors ( music, sport, theatre, history, museums, comedy, architecture and art galleries etc). . I mostly go solo to those London based kind of things and am fine with that but wandering around a bit and having a laugh with someone while experiencing them together, or having a coffee during the times in between, might make them even more enjoyable.( That would apply to anyone and local activities just as much as when visiting London)

Non London interests and those closer to home include cinema, going to the gym , live music, swimming, theatre and anything that keeps my brain active. I try to help with that last thing by playing online Scrabble and doing puzzles.

What am I looking for? Good question! Friendship is a non negotiable starting point and whilst I am NOT looking for 24/7 or anything permanent, I am not looking for one offs either. Even if I see them on just an occasional/infrequent basis, I want to keep friendships going once made. Distance might limit the frequency of ‘ in person’ meetings but chat has no geographical boundary limits and can be done at any time. I guess I am looking for a ‘serious friendship’ , at least as a starting point. i always take the view that friendship IS a benefit in itself .

When considering friendship i don’t think about age, shape, colour, income, relationship status or disabilities . I think about humour, attitude, self awareness, intelligence and ability to make me laugh or think. If you can (or want to) banter; if you can be playfully silly; if you love comedy, if you still have an inner child and jump puddles, if you are capable of discussing ‘serious’ stuff as well as weird and wacky then i am going to be interested. If you one or love dogs we are likely to have at least one common interest

The idea of a gal pal with whom some ( or all) of chat/banter, flirting , giggly teasing and taking the hiss ( typo) out of each other can take place, not necessarily all on the same day , but in and amongst regular or ‘serious’ conversation, sounds nice. It isn’t essential but I am not averse to the idea of touch if it suits both. If it ever happened it would only occur after a fully informed, trusting, consensual, bedrock of friendship had been established and the fullest of ‘ full and frank’ discussions had taken place though.

Health considerations and having to acknowledge the fragility of life and its uncertainties are partly responsible for this profile and as a result I am trying to ‘ carpe diem, carpe noctum, carpe omnia ! ’ a little more. Some but not all might understand my reasons for creating a profile (feel free to ask) but if you are looking to develop new interests and perhaps occasional male company to do stuff with, or even perhaps to make a new ‘ boy pal’ chat buddy if we are too far apart to ever meet, drop me a line. A quick chat will soon establish if there is any click potential. FYI ..and just to be clear ( I don’t have the memory to remember multiple fibs ), my status on here is correct

Have fun whether i hear from you or not ( I hope I might)