About MelissaRyan

MelissaRyan is single and is seeking males for friendship.

NOT LOOKING FOR ANYTHING OTHER THAN FRIENDSHIP !!!

NOT DATING!!!

I'm just looking to chat with people from all walks of life, I always conduct myself with as much politeness as I am shown, as much respect as I am given. I am forthright and unfiltered.

Manners cost nothing...

An explanation of why I'm only looking to chat, even though friendship is one of the search criteria, but it's astounding how many feel entitled to an answer.

I believe that soulmates and romance are a fallacy catering to false hope. We are instructed from childhood that if we believe enough if we try enough that things will work out...it's nonsense, we are taught that love has to hurt, it doesn't... And it should never hurt, because it's based on cherishing the entirety of a person, and having respect for them.

People use indoctrinated social confirmity to justify toxic behaviours, actions and enable more of the same.

Being provider, protector and homemaker for myself, means that other people and company are a choice, not a necessity... That validation come from within, not without. That happiness, contentment and tranquility, taking joy in the simplest of moments is internal, no one can give it to you.

I'll give you an example
it's a beautiful dawn over the sea, the sky shades of red and orange with hints of pink and yellow, the sea calm and the glinting sun shimmering across it make it look like it's aflame with gold.and you sit still. and watch, the chill of the air staved off by the scarf you knitted. Yourself, warm and snug. The air fresh and in that moment you feel joy in the majestic view. a perfect moment.
Now add another person who sits there and as you try to be lost in the experience, comes out with " so this is all? How boring" . " What you doing silent, all meditation like a guru or something . all that yin and yang crap" ."I'm cold, it was stupid to be up so early"
On and on it goes. Their mere presence shatters the joy of the moment and leaves you agitated and demoralised.

A relationship is no substitute for inner calm.

A life just being who you are, is the most rewarding of all.it's your goals and dreams to fulfil, your time to spend anyway you choose, and no one has a right to comment on your life, only on theirs. You take the freedom to be expressive, creative and content and make every day a constructive experience.

What possible incentive could I have to alter that dynamic.

I don't need to encounter a host of numpties in person, to see the value of a life lived for oneself.

You aren't hurting anyone, influencing anyone elses life, you aren't demanding others change to suit you. You are just setting the pace for your life. and what others do is not your business or concern.